I dont think my story is a secret to anyone who has googled my name. At the outset of the drama and media circus that ensued, I figured my life had come to an end and my dreams were derailed. All hopes of living a successful life were gone. 3 days before I was confined, Staff Sergeant Robert Jordan, a fellow Marine and mentor said something to me that has since carried me back from the brink:
We all make mistakes, and life isnt over for you. No matter what happens, learn from it and use it to make you better. It takes heat and pressure to transform coal into diamond
I had always thought that if someone was suffering (from poverty) it was their own fault, and on the other hand, if you havent been punished then you must be doing things right. Wrong! We all know that good people suffer just as much as the bad. We all know that people who are “guilty by association” are punished just as harshly as hardened criminals.
It is almost a guarantee that misfortune will befall you, but at that moment of despair, it is important to realize that punishment is corrective and can be productive. On the other hand, it is important to realize that if you havent faced adversity, you are in no better position than someone who has.
Reaching sustainable success means accepting the hand that life has dealt you (rather than cursing your fate) and playing the best game you can. See misfortune for what it really is: an opportunity to identify and improve on your weaknesses.
From Failure to Fortune
In 2002, I had the privilege of meeting a man whose story is now well known. After enduring a heartbreaking childhood filled with abuse and the poverty rampant in 1970s New Orleans, Emmitt Perry Jr dropped out of high school at the age of 16, earned a GED, and changed his first name to Tyler (to break his association with his father). He then moved to Atlanta where he took on a series of low paying jobs, until he began to therapeutically write about his painful past. These writings evolved into his first “church basement” play called I Know Ive Been Changed. The first production in 1992 drew only 30 people and proved to be a massive failure. He would have to endure 6 more years of mediocrity and poverty (having to live out of his car at one point) before he would become an “overnight success” in 1998. Had Tyler Perry not endured these crushing circumstances and learned the lessons that failure presented him, would he be the very first African American film producer to own a major television and film studio? Or the 3rd highest earning black entertainer on Forbes’ list?
Oprah Winfrey can be credited with Tyler Perry’s inspiration to write, and came from very similar circumstances herself (grew up in poverty, suffered abuse) before becoming the person we all know her to be today. If it wasn’t for the punishment inflicted on her by her past, would she have come to be the most powerful woman on Earth?
Dave Ramsey is the host of The Dave Ramsey show, author of 3 New York Times bestsellers, and has a ridiculous net worth. His financial advice is the result of what he calls “stupid tax”, the price paid for making dumb decisions. Had Dave Ramsey not suffered through bankruptcy and living off beans and rice, would he be able to enrich himself and financially empower millions of others today? It is doubtful, since the fame and wealth that he has earned comes from teaching other people how to avoid the mistakes that led to his downfall.
Bobbie S. was recently featured on the new TV show How’d You Get So Rich. At the age of 46, her husband left her for a 19 year old with a divorce settlement so low that she had to sleep on friends couches. Facing homelessness, she returned to school for cosmetology, networked, and landed a contract with the U.S. Marines to design and sell camouflage makeup. Today, she is worth $30 Million – money that she would have never seen had she not gone though the pain of divorce or the punishment of destitution.
Application
The heights by great me reached and kept
Were not attained by sudden flight;
But they, while their opponents slept,
Were fighting upward in the night.
Once you hit rock bottom, once you descend into the pits of hell, you know that the only place you can go from there is up. Rather than wallowing in your misery, learn the lessons that pain presents to you. When I first learned to box, getting knocked out was the only way that I learned to keep my guard up, and my gift every since then is a strong defense. Tyler Perry tried and failed at his first production; the only way that he could learn how to market his product. Dave Ramsey worked his way out of bankruptcy and developed a series of techniques and lessons learned as a result.

Adversity can be both uplifting and debilitating at the same time. It can either push you over the edge or up to heights that could have never otherwise been attained. It is said in Christianity that God first gives man a promise, then gives him a problem that he must overcome to reach provision. If you expect to be successful, if the subject of getting from where you are to where you want to be frustrates you, keeps you from falling asleep at night, and fills your dreams, then you possess the seeds of promise. Driven by them, you strike out to make your dreams a reality. Once you embark on your journey towards success, it is then that you will be tested, you will receive your problem(s). How you then respond to those problems will ultimately determine your provision.
Into the Fire
No matter what your circumstances are, redemption and success is possible if you are willing to pay the price. It took jail to turn Malcolm X, Martin Luther King JR, and Rosa Parks into freedom fighters. It takes 13 weeks of hell to turn an immature teenager into a United States Marine. It will take just as much, if not more for you to achieve victory.
Be prepared to be haunted by demons, thoughts of suicide, helplessness, feelings of being overwhelmed. Be prepared for fatigue, frustration, and what seems like fruitlessness. These are the guardians that you must pass to reach your destination.
You are certainly able, but are you ready or willing? Are you willing to go door to door in the rain to make sales? Are you willing to sleep in your car? Are you ready to be jailed for your beliefs? Leave the comfort of the familiar and strike out into the world alone? If so, no matter what your circumstances, redemption and success is possible.
Fight and endure. Only heat and pressure can transform coal into diamond.
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